No matter what socio-economic, religion or racial demographic your teen or young adult falls into, there is one variable that is of primary importance in the long-term success rate of an individual entering treatment when considering an addiction intervention. That variable is the degree of his willingness, and it is there that we place our focus. So how do we increase his willingness? That begins with you. If we can change the dynamics within the family and we help to empower you so that you have a stronger, more positive effect then you can actually begin to change the attitudes and behaviors of your loved one. An effective drug or alcohol intervention is not about “forcing your loved one into treatment”, but helping you to change the way that you deal with his addiction. In other words, if you continue to keep treating your loved one the same way you always have, then they will continue to act and react in the same way they always have. But if you change, then so must they. And we are here to help guide you towards a different, more effective way.
In order to empower you the family, and help your loved one, our alcohol and drug intervention process is broken down into a minimum of two separate days:
Day One, Family Intervention Consultation Day:
The first day of the addiction intervention process can last anywhere from 6 to 8 hours, on the average. Here is where we focus on the family, educating them on addiction, enabling and tough love. We also guide you through some changes that can be made to stop the damage that an addiction is creating…and then to help you through the healing. On this day we also plan the alcohol or drug intervention itself.
Day Two, The Alcohol or Drug Intervention Day:
The gathering of family and friends of the addict or alcoholic who is in trouble, which is a loving, guided approach towards recovery. Using a methodology broken down into session’s desgned to slowly allow the addict or alcoholic to want to change. This averages several hours in length although it can last for days. In actuality, we don’t end the intervention itself until one of the following happens:
We have a process that works to empower the family, helps to heal the damage caused by the addiction, and can change the lives of you and your loved ones forever. It’s time to change, and it can begin now.
Teen, Young Adult, Spouse or Loved One Interventions
At Intervention INK, we offer HOPE — something that many families have gone so long without while dealing with their teen, young adult, spouse or loved one. Unfortunately, addiction is a family disease. Our goal is to educate and assist the family in understanding the addiction, the treatment and the recovery process. Our focus is long-term recovery while helping the family rebuild themselves. Intervention INK works with some of the top treatment centers in the country, as well as operates our own men’s sober recovery home program. Please click on the Rusty’s House link for more info. With our own recovery experience, our structured techniques, education, drug intervention coordination and family counseling, our addiction interventionist will help you and your family start the recovery process. And more importantly, keep them there.
Do you know someone who needs Intervention because they do not want to quit?
We all hope that one day the alcoholic or addict will “wake up” and realize the damage they are causing to themselves and those around them. However, this rarely happens. More likely, the begging, pleading, and threats of friends and family will have no effect on the addiction. Many times families feel that there isn’t anything they can do to help the situation. This is when frustration and hopelessness can become overpowering. It is important to know that there is help even for the ones who insist they do not have a problem. Intervention INK has worked with many families is this very situation and have had favorable results.
Intervention can help save their life!
The bottom line is that a professional intervention can save the life of your loved one. Without some form of an intervention, most addicts are doomed to continue down the destructive path they have chosen. There are few cases, however, where the heartfelt pleas of the family have been enough for the addict to realize that he/she needs to change. But, for the most part, professional guidance is necessary.
At Intervention INK, we believe the first step to recovery is the family. With this, we believe in educating the family on the addiction and the ways of the addict. We believe in teaching the family how to not enable the addict, even when it is out of love. We work with the family to set boundaries and consequences to help guide the addict to a treatment center and ultimately a sober future.
We have worked hard to create a comprehensive website with information to help families who are dealing with a loved one who has been overtaken by addiction. By reviewing our site, we hope you will have a clear understanding of who we are, why we do what we do and how we can help you get your loved one into the recovery process. We encourage you to take the time to read through our material. Then, please call the number above to speak directly with an addiction intervention specialist.
Drugs or alcohol is not the problem
It is important to understand the actions and reactions of an addict in order to predict the behavior in the future. It is also important to fully grasp the nature of addiction and the role of the interventionist. Many people mistakenly believe that it is the drug or alcohol abuse that is the problem. Family members of an addict sometimes end up focusing all their energies on the usage, instead of on the underlying issues that ultimately cause the alcohol or drug abuse. In almost every case of actual addiction, it is not the actual substance that is the primary problem, although understandably does cause problems. The hard truth is that the alcohol or drug use is but one of many symptoms of an underlying problem. That is what effective treatment and recovery is about — learning what the underlying causes and conditions are and then treating the problem. You may ask yourself, “What is this underlying problem?” Our job as addiction interventionist is to help you understand the answer to that question. By doing so, addiction won’t be mystery any longer and solutions can be found.
An intervention with Intervention INK will educate and empower the family on the following topics of addiction:
Addiction- It is the family that suffers.
After your teen, young adult, spouse or loved one has been through dozens of drunken episodes, lost jobs, have stolen checks, credit cards and pawned family items, the addict or alcoholic usually seems to remain relatively oblivious to the misery that he or she is causing their loved ones. Aside from the occasional mumbled apology, or the brief moments of self-pity, it appears that he or she takes very little accountability or responsibility for their own actions.
It is the family that always suffers most…not the addict. If an addict becomes too uncomfortable, they can always just ingest another pill, take another drink, or smoke another joint to “make it all go away” leaving the family powerless. It is you, the parents, who stay up all night wondering where your loved one is, what they are doing and wondering if tonight is the night you get the phone call informing you they have died. You are the one who feels the pain of knowing deep down inside that your loved one is a drug addict and needs help. The pain is sometimes unbearable. The family members are the ones that suffer the most, and the family unit is damaged as a result.
Statistically, most drug addicts or alcoholics do not get sober. The idea that one day most alcoholics or addicts wake up and eventually “figure it out” is nothing more than a fallacy. The alcoholic or addict is usually the least qualified to know how much trouble they are facing in the future. Some end up in jail. Some overdose or die in automobile accidents – or kill others in accidents due to their driving under the influence. Some commit suicide. Some just continue on with their lives, slowly fading away… also known as the long goodbye. Sadly, most never find sobriety and the suffering family waits helplessly for a miracle.
Sobriety almost always begins when an outside event occurs that causes an alcoholic or addict to look differently at their current life and into the future of where they are heading. Sometimes it is after the loss of a friend to an overdose, getting kicked out of school, or they end up facing prison time. Sometimes it is after they lose everything and end up on the streets. But, sobriety does not have to begin when someone has hit rock bottom. It can, and should happen before they have destroyed their health, their relationships and their future. Recovery can begin with you – the one who loves the addict. This is the true definition of an intervention – ending the enabling before it allows the addiction to kill your loved and or you.
Enabling the Addiction
Am I making it worse?
There is a reason that an addiction intervention is often called a family intervention. Enabling, put quite simply, is the action someone takes or does not take that allows or helps an addict to continue drinking or using drugs. Often even with the best intentions of love, we inadvertently strengthen the addiction of a loved one when what we really intended to do was to simply “help them to stop”. This is especially difficult when dealing with teens and young adults. As parents, our first response is that we do not want to believe our child is an addict. Secondly, we want to give them time to work out their issues. This process usually begins slowly over time and almost always with the pure intention to simply help.
For example, the alcoholic is hung over so we call in for him at work because we don’t want him to lose his job. Or we lend the drug user money because he is in “big trouble” and says he needs our help or we give him money because we want him to finish school. The reasons are endless. And, the excuses are common. As untreated alcoholism and drug addiction progresses, so too can our enabling behaviors. We find ourselves tolerating more and more outrageous behaviors that we never would have considered dealing with previously. Because of this, we begin to compromise our own sense of morals and dignity. Our focus becomes more and more on the addicted one and we, very often, begin to lose ourselves in the process. Emotionally, spiritually, mentally and financially we end up feeling drained and powerless. At later stages, the addict’s behavior can even begin to affect us physically after the anxiety and stress of hundreds of sleepless nights begin to wear us down. In the end, it is usually only anger, frustration and hopelessness that is left.
Why won’t he / she get help?
The question is hard. The answer is simple. Right now his drug and alcohol use is more comfortable and natural for him as it has become or is becoming a way of life. Seeking treatment is the unknown. With all the negative consequences that we see, it may not appear that way to us, however it’s the truth. And the reason it is more comfortable for the addict is because we have helped to make it that way. It is common for us at Intervention INK to find a loving family completely encircling an addict. He has no job because the family loans him money. He has no apartment because the family lets him stay with them “just until he gets on his feet.” He is not in jail because the family has bailed him out. He drives drunk because no one confronts him. His grandparents do not know because the family keeps the addiction a secret. He is not in prison because the family didn’t want to give him any more legal problems, even though he has stolen from them time and time again. Does any of this sound familiar in your individual family situation? If so, please know that you are not alone.
Of course these are extreme examples, but enabling also occurs in families where the addict has not hit rock bottom and is still functioning in society. For us to more greatly understand our role in the lives of an addicted one, it is best if we break down the basic types of enabling behaviors during the intervention process, understand the effect this actually has on our loved one and look back into our past to see if we have exhibited any of the enabling behaviors ourselves. It is important to know that, even if you have demonstrated enabling characteristics in your past, it isn’t too late to change the direction of how you deal with the addict. These habits can be changed. That is part of the healing process not only for the addict but also for the family members. Keep in mind that as long as all the factors around an addict remain the same, he will continue to behave as he always has. Therefore, the person who offers enabling must learn to change their own behavior so that the addict will respond in a positive direction. In other words, by letting the addict feel the negative consequences of their lifestyle choice – not being sheltered and protected by others - they will be able to move towards a positive means to an end. However, this is only achieved when we stop enabling them to continue they way they always have.
At Intervention INK what we are trying to do, through our own personal experiences, is guide the family so that each family member comes to their own realizations as to how their past actions could possibly have affected the people they love. Identifying how we have enabled is just a part of the entire addiction intervention process, but still an extremely important one. Our goal is to teach family members how to handle situations that are common with addiction issues, while also taking into consideration that each family has an individual dynamic that might not be part of the norm. We are here to help. To help you understand the past. To help you understand the present. And to help you strive for the future.
But if I kick him out, what if I never see him again?
At Intervention INK, we believe in Tough Love — with a choice. The purpose of a professional intervention is to raise the addict out of his/her addiction. Sometimes life becomes so helpless and the addict becomes powerless because the addiction has taken over. This is when they are asking for help. Even if they aren’t asking out loud, their actions prove they truly want help. No one wants to live a life chained to an addiction. However, many times they don’t know the way to change the hold that is on them.
When we first meet with a family, we discuss the problems and then talk to the family about the seriousness of there being consequences for their loved one just in case he/she decides not to accept the help offered by the family. Most addicts, when faced with serious consequences from the family, decide to move forward with treatment. Of course, they will not be happy about it, but they will go. For those rare case’s when an addict decides to challenge the family’s consequences and not accept help, it is at this point that the family must stand strong and stand by the consequences they have set forth. The ultimate result is that the addict will now need to actually hit rock bottom. When someone reaches their lowest point, the next step is upward. Sometimes, in rare occasions, this is the only way to bring an addict out of the darkness they have been living. They have to realize that there is light in their future and sober living is the answer.
Tough love can be a scary concept for any family, but once you grasp the true nature of it, it will be one of the most effective approaches you have in getting your loved one to embrace recovery. Basically, tough love is where we draw a line in the sand with a using alcoholic or addict. It is an acknowledgment that if he/she wishes to continue on the path of destruction, you will no longer participate nor will you empower the addiction to negatively affect you any longer. It is potentially the final statement in any addiction intervention. It is important to remember that tough love should never be delivered out of anger or spite. The addict must know you are not there to hurt them, but to help them. When delivered effectively, tough love is a message of love. As those with children know, it is important to set healthy boundaries for growth. For many reasons, the addict has learned to live outside of natural boundaries which has driven the addiction to uncontrollable measures. Once you have set the new standards of what you will and will not deal with concerning the addict, and the addict in your life decides he/she wants to continue using drugs or alcohol, your intervention specialist will guide you and your family through the process of determining what aspects of your lives need to be changed so that you can become free from the addiction of your loved one.
Always remember, an intervention is never about forcing a family to disconnect or detach from a loved one who is addicted to drugs or alcohol. It’s purpose is to get your loved one into treatment immediately. It is also to help the family learn how to handle the issues while also learning how to not enable the addict in the future. The family should only do what they are comfortable doing. Our job is to guide and to empower the family so that they will have a clear understanding of why this has happened and how to correct the problems.
What happens after the Intervention?
At Intervention INK we believe that the short-term goal of simply “getting the addict to treatment” is just the beginning of a life-long goal of recovery. Our goal is to help the addict and the families understand the importance of long-term aftercare and recovery.
After the initial 30 to 60 days of inpatient care, Intervention INK will help families place their loved ones in an appropriate sober living home and healthy environment for continued recovery
A drug and alcohol intervention should not end when the addict agrees to go to treatment. A professional intervention is a process, not an event. To help an addict or alcoholic and their family achieve the first year in sobriety, we offer each of the family member’s lifetime consultation after the intervention, during treatment, and in the weeks, months and years to come after treatment.
It’s important to understand that, on the day of the drug and alcohol intervention, what you may have considered to be the most important part of recovery might not be the same after your loved one is home after treatment. You may soon find yourself facing new challenges that might not have been addressed in the intervention. Our goal is to help guide you to find all the answers you need to these questions that are tailored to your specific family dynamic. This is why we offer lifetime support.
It is best to choose treatment before the Intervention.
It certainly can be overwhelming for a family member to surf the Internet looking for treatment for their loved one. Especially when the family does not know what to look for. Evaluating exactly what form of treatment your teen, young adult, spouse or loved one will respond to is of utmost importance in gaining long-term sobriety from alcohol or drugs. At Intervention INK, we not only have an on-going personal relationship with some of the top treatment facilities in the country, we also have access to several databases which allow us to refer to thousands of treatment centers and after-care sober living environments nationwide.
Determining exactly what form of treatment is best for the individual who suffers from addiction is of primary importance if treatment is to be successful. In other words, if the individual isn’t receptive to a particular “brand” of counseling, then he/she certainly will not respond to it. It is important that this statement is emphasized and then re-emphasized for maximum impact and understanding. Because of this, we work closely with the families to select the best, most effective form of treatment and it is all determined on a case-by-case basis. No two families are alike and each have their own dynamics that must be taken into consideration.
How much does a professional intervention cost?
If you are now realizing you need some outside help to turn the life of someone you love into a positive direction, you have probably begun researching various intervention services. Most prices for professional drug and alcohol interventions can range anywhere from $5,000-$10,000, on average. With that being said, you are also probably wondering what exactly you receive with these costs.
First, here is some history on Intervention INK. We were founded in 2007 by Rick and Amy Marvin, who realized a calling after losing their son Rusty to a cocaine overdose at the age of 18 in July of 2005. Rick and Amy have dedicated their lives to helping families who have fallen into an addiction crises. They understand that with the financial strain associated with a loved one addicted to alcohol or drugs, family financial difficulties can make recovery difficult. Due to this, we make sure that we deliver the most comprehensive service for the most cost-effective price. Although there can never be a price tag on the life of a loved one, we do not take advantage of an already stressed out family situation by inflating our costs.
Our professional interventions are a minimum of 2 days (Family Consultation Day and the Intervention Day) and do not end until either your loved one agrees to treatment or you say that the intervention is over. Most of our interventions average 2 days, however sometimes we may be with the family for additional days if necessary. We also plan the after care for your loved one that includes a half-way house, as well as a sober living environment along with long-term treatment plans. Rather than price an intervention with individual service pricing, we offer a turn-key pricing structure with a flat fee of $3500 for a standard intervention and for Extreme Intervention prices are based on risk. However, sometimes it’s difficult to budget the expense of a professional intervention. Therefore, we offer interventions on a sliding scale for those who qualify. The only additional fees would include the cost of airfare, depending on your location and a hotel fee if necessary. Keep in mind that we are considerate of costs and always do our best to obtain the least expensive direct non-stop flight that fits your schedule. And, if you would like us to escort your loved one directly to treatment rather than taking him/her yourself – which we strongly recommend – we do charge an additional $500 a day plus airfare and expenses.
We require a non-refundable deposit of $1000.00 to guarantee services and we accept certified checks, money orders, and most credit cards through PayPal and Wells Fargo Merchant Services as well as bank transfers and direct deposits.
Rusty’s House mens Sober Living Recovery Program is a private highly structured residential recovery program. We are located in the beautiful Appalachian Mountains of NC in the town of Waynesville. Please click on "Our Program" link for more information and to reserve a bed.